A Change in Attitude Can Change Our Life

I woke up this morning so thankful. I went to sleep late last night, working on a “need-to-be-completed-tomorrow” assignment. Yes, I work long hours.  But I love my work and look forward to each day.  And I get an opportunity to take walks during these beautiful, sunny, nearly spring days. Residents of AgeSong are so appreciative of companionship and someone to listen to them, which is my job. Yesterday Tom, who was a librarian for most of his working life, guided four of us through back streets, lined with small industry, to the railroad tracks. Tom was the perfect leader. He knew which side of the street to walk on (the sunny side and where buildings blocked the wind) and told stories along the way.  Speaking of appreciative – he was so grateful to go for a walk – he needs an escort when he leaves the AgeSong at Bayside Park elder community since he walks with a walker and his neck is in a brace. On the way back, we discovered a chocolate-making factory. The person in charge generously gave us each a caramel chocolate. Following are Nader’s Musings on how we view aging and our attitude toward life, in general.

Sally Gelardin, AgeSong Journalist

Our Choice, Decline or Deepen

Nader Shabahangi, CEO, AgeSong Elder Communities and AgeSong Institute

To age means to live. To live means to age. Today’s fascination with anti-aging measures overlooks this simple truism. Not to age is to arrest our growth and development, is to die, metaphorically and literally.  The anti-aging movement looks at our physical bodies alone. It mistakes the package as the content of our lives. This is akin to buying a carton of milk and having more concern about the looks and color of the carton than its content. Imagine going to the store and purchasing a box of milk without paying attention to the milk’s expiration date? This is what we are doing when we talk about anti-aging, when we make the body’s appearance more important than our internal growth and maturation.

Over a hundred years ago the brilliant American psychologist William James stated poignantly that the single most important discovery of our age is that a change in our attitude can change our life. This is good news for us human beings as we have a choice in the way we want to look at life, i.e., in a way that gives us a sense of gratitude for all of who we are and all of what is; or are we choosing to look at life as an ongoing series of sufferings and turmoil to which we are, against our will, being subjected. This, indeed, is our choice.

Similarly, it is our choice to look at life from the viewpoint of ongoing decline as we age or from the perspective of ongoing growth and maturation. The former point of view imparts on us the specter of doom, of continued deterioration and, frankly, a life with increased suffering as we approach our later years. The latter point of view regards life as an ongoing process of learning and deepening, of continued maturation and broadening of vision. This is our choice. Which direction do you choose?

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On Elders, Discounts and Priceless Moments

by Nader Shabahangi, CEO of AgeSong Elder Communities and President, AgeSong Institute

In a meeting with elders a few days ago I asked the question what is good about being older. The first response from a group of over twenty elders was: discounts! Of course, in some ways this was meant as a joke. However, as Freud keenly observed over a hundred years ago, jokes are related to truths that reside deep within our unconscious. In other words, the joke contains an observation of life from which we can learn.

What is it about discounts that gives an elder, and probably most of us younger as well, a feeling of being special? Well, this is not too difficult to ponder. Discounts give us the feeling of being unique, give us a sense of reward for being part of a select group of people. In the case of elders, we might even feel that we have achieved something, reached a place in life where others, our society, feels that we are deserving of a treat.

To me there is a deep wisdom in the act of giving a discount, a special treat to an elder. Yes, it constitutes an acknowledgment of having lived a long life. But I believe there is something more fundamental behind the act of giving a discount. For through a discount, literally, our society is saying: we are giving back to our elders.

The question arises: giving back for what? What have elders done for society that makes us feel we need to give back to them?

This question can be answered from many different points of view. We can say they have been taxpayers most of their working lives and have contributed to the building and upkeep of our country. Or we can emphasize that many have had children and contributed to the growth and future of our country. Or we can point out that they have endured the difficulties and struggles of life and have not given up throughout it all. We also might emphasize that they are now grandparents and are helping the newer generations get situated and on track with their lives. Another perspective will see elders as being mentors, guides and civic elders who help steer our communities and cities with decisions based on their accumulated life-experiences and wisdom.

These are but a few of the different lenses through which we can see and value the life of our elders. We can also become even more philosophical and think, for a moment, about how many people elders have touched throughout their lives, how many people were influenced and directed by them, how much they have taught and learned, given to others in what often seem to be little but so very meaningful ways.  My grandpa would have me sit on his lap many times and that feeling of being held and cared for sits deep within my being. Grandma’s loving smile is present with me especially when I need to face the more challenging moments life brings forth. All these encounters with a wise and loving elder make us who we are. They are and always will be priceless. They deserve a discount – and much, much more.

About the Author

 Nader Shabahangi, Ph.D.,received his Doctorate from Stanford University, is a licensed psychotherapist, and is   cofounder of AgeSong. His multicultural background has fueled his passion for becoming an advocate for marginalized groups and for creating programs with the purpose of caring more comprehensively for elders. Nader also founded the Pacific Institute, a nonprofit organization that defines its mission as one of helping elders live meaningful lives. He is a frequent guest lecturer, including presenting at international conferences focusing on aging, counseling, and dementia. Nader authored Faces of Aging and co-authored Deeper Into the Soul and Conversations With Ed.

Toward a Poetics of Aging: A Different Understanding of Life

Presenter: Nader Shabahangi, PhD, Founder and CEO of AgeSong

Date: Thursday, June 28

Location: Moscone Center, San Francisco

Time: 2:30pm–3:30pm

As a culture and people we are ready to move beyond the nonsensical notion that the later and last years are declining years – years that are supposedly less valuable than those before. Too often, the “decline-metaphor” has permeated our culture; often visible to us, at other times entering our awareness in more subtle ways.

Dr. Nader Shabahangi offers a new, more complex and rich understanding of life and aging – a radical departure from the dominant paradigm that life is “fulfilled” the prime of life, at the highpoint of a career, or at the peak of one’s power. The Poetics of Aging recognizes that the poem called “life’s poem” finds its final stanza, its completion, only at the very end of life. Aging understood as such is an active process of becoming, learning and growing. We do not get old but grow old. Eldership is the apex of a lifetime of learning and experiencing, of struggle and concern, of being courageous and creative.

This fascinating session will move beyond the superficial, surface layers of what we perceive of “older consumers,” offering a more comprehensive view of aging and refreshing, new perspectives on community development and operations.

Bio

Founder of Pacific Institute and AgeSong Institute. Co-Founder of AgeSong Senior Communities. Co-Founder of Elders Academy Press. Licensed psychotherapist and noted author. Guest lecturer at international conferences focusing on aging, counseling, and dementia.

Nader received his doctorate from Stanford University and is a licensed psychotherapist. His multicultural background has made him an advocate for different marginalized groups of society throughout his adult life.In the 1980′s he worked with abused children and teenagers and led anticipatory bereavement groups for Coming Home Hospice. In 1992 he founded the non-profit organization Pacific Institute with the purpose of training psychotherapists in a multicultural, humanistic approach to counseling and to provide affordable therapy services to the many diverse groups living in San Francisco. In 1994, noticing the often inhumane treatment of the elderly living in institutions, he started to develop an innovative Gerontological Wellness Program in order to provide emotional support and mental health care services for the elderly. In 1997, together with his two brothers, Nader opened a residential care home for the elderly in San Francisco called Hayes Valley Care, where he could along with the Pacific institute Internship team implement the Gerontological Wellness Program.

Nader continues to create programs with the purpose of caring more comprehensively for the elderly. In 2002 he helped found Pacific Institute Europe in Warsaw, Poland, in order to bring gerontological and comprehensive care services to the European continent. He was also inspired to explore new ideas for community living and began design of a ‘village’ concept for older adults he calls ‘Elders Academy’. In 2003 he co-founded Elders Academy Press, a publishing program of Pacific Institute and Pacific Institute Europe, specifically dedicated to promoting writings of and for elders. At the same time Nader also began a program of conflict resolution between Russians, Germans and Poles. Last year – combining his passion for the elderly with his love for photography and philosophy – Nader wrote Faces of Aging as a tribute and celebration of being an elder. He continues this exploration through teaching ‘eldership’ workshops in Europe. These meetings explore the difference between getting ‘old’ and growing into the role of an elder and have the purpose of preparing us for old age and eldership. He continues his work by training interns and supervisors in a humanistic-existential approach to psychotherapy and living.

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Working from the Heart

Queen of Hearts Valentine Card photo

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Valentines Day, a holiday dedicated to love, is my favorite holiday.  It doesn’t have the pressure of the December holidays and the expectations of New Years Day.  According to Bay Area spiritual teacher Eknath Easwaran, everyone is capable of love.  He says:

In a sense, it comes down to attention. When we are pre-occupied with ourselves – our thoughts, our desires, our preferences – we cannot help becoming insensitive to others’ needs. We can pay attention only to so much, and all our attention rests on ourselves. When we turn away from ourselves, even if only a little, we begin to see what is really best for those we love. Eknath Easwaran (retrieved from Nader’s December 6, 2011 blog, http://www.agesong.com/lifestyle/naders-musing.cfm)

That’s why I like lunching with residents of the Bayside Park Elder Community.  I become immersed in their stories and forget about myself (Am I good enough? Could I do more? Learn faster?  Navigate through life more effectively?).  Seeing another’s face light up gives me so much pleasure.

Thirty-seven years ago I sent out a handmade card to all my relatives.  I was in love and had just become engaged to my life companion. Easwaran says:

…a man and woman brought into union are not adversaries. They are meant to complete each other, not to compete. Their union should dissolve separate boundaries – what is bad for one can never be good for the other.

When we had fights over who works more, earns more, plays more, cooks more, cares more, cares too much, I learned that competing does not work. We learned to both listen to our inner wisdom and flow with each other’s journey.    Whether there are crumbs on the table or a weed in the garden does not bother me.

Talking with my 92-year young mother on the phone for a few minutes every evening,  seeing my adult children thrive, being there for them when they are challenged, dancing through life’s ups and downs with my soul mate, dreaming and creating with others – these are what makes life meaningful for me.

Every day that I spend in AgeSong at Bayside Park I am in love – listening to my lunch companion talk about selling gloves in the City of Paris, celebrating women’s wisdom with Miriam Chaya, who chose this name to acknowledge her inner wisdom, hearing mother-daughter stories, meeting the gentleman who used to listen to Benny Goodman’s high-school band and the other gentleman whose favorite book is Two Years Before the Mast, learning about the value of family support groups,  riding up and down elevators with the caring care partners who are always on a caring mission.

The name “Valentine” came from valens (worthy, strong, powerful).  In his book Working from the Heart, William Ryan talks about “expanding our awareness of the myriad ways in which our hearts can facilitate healing” (p. 11) so that clients can benefit from a synthesis of our minds and our hearts.

I believe that we all – our clients, our loved ones, and ourselves – can benefit by working and living from the heart.

Dr. Sally Gelardin
AgeSong Journalist and Queen of Hearts

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Learning about Aging from Elders: Reflections of a Psychology Trainee at the AgeSong Communities

In Process through Process Work
For the past five months, Troy Piwowarski has been immersed in the philosophy and practice of a psychological theory called “process work” (see Process Oriented Psychology by Arnold Mindell). Process Work emphasizes awareness – both the client’s and the therapist’s – rather than any specific set of interventions (Wikipedia). As Troy explained, “Process work pays attention to what is happening in the present moment. It has to do with seeing people as fluid and constantly changing beings.”

A doctoral student at the Michigan School of Professional Psychology, Troy is spending 12 months in the San Francisco Bay area to study with Dr. Nader Shabahangi, whom he met last summer at a presentation by Nader on the basic therapeutic concepts of Existential Humanistic Therapy (American Psychology Association, Humanistic
Division, Chicago). Troy’s motivation for moving to the Bay area for a year was to immerse himself in experiential learning, which he believes is an essential part of his education.

Process work has played out in the various roles Troy has assumed for the past five months, and will continue to assume, through August of 2012. His “externship” has included four tracks: (a) volunteering at a conference, (b) helping with a book project, (c) performing clinical work, and (d) studies.

Poetics of Aging Conference and EHI
Like most conferences, the Poetics of Aging Conference, produced for the first time this Fall by AgeSong Institute, required much work in a very short time. Coordinating speaker book signings, data entry, and preparing speaker material to meet continuing education requirements for residential care facilities for the elderly (RCFEs) were only a
few of the many responsibilities that Troy assumed in preparation for the conference. He also helped in organizing the “Inner Elder” track of the conference offered by the Existential-Humanistic Institute’s new Certificate Program.

Nader Shabahangi helped found and lead the Existential Humanistic Institute (EHI) for the last 15 years. EHI’s Certificate in Existential Humanistic Psychotherapy, the first of its kind in the United States, will have its beginning class of students this year. Except for four days of intensive on-site training, most of the one-year curriculum will be
delivered by distance. Students will need to successfully complete two theory courses, a 50-hour practicum (face-to-face work with a client or clients), and two experiential weekends.  Troy will be playing a role in helping market EHI to potential students, and will later assist with the experiential training component.

At the Poetics of Aging Conference, psychotherapy professionals and students, including Troy, attended EHI classes taught by many leading existentialist therapists of the San Francisco Bay Area. Among those were Kirk Schneider who worked with the existentialist icon Rollo May and Orah Krug and Nader Shabahangi, who worked with well-known existential therapists Irvin Yalom and James Bugental.

The concept of the Inner Elder, first coined by Michael Meade and James Hillman and then reintroduced by Nader Shabahangi in his 2003 book Faces of Aging, presents a key concept of existential thought by emphasizing our authentic core. This authentic core, who we are when we become aware of how we are influenced by parental, social and
cultural givens, is also called the Inner Elder, the wise part in us. This part we can access at any age and time, if only we so choose.

Editing Elders Today
Before he started working with Nader, he didn’t consider working with elders as a serious career focus.  Now he thinks working with this population might be in his future. He helped Nader edit Elders Today:  Opportunities of a Lifetime (Elders Academy Press, 2011), a book about “the freedom and liberation that aging has to offer” (Rhoda Curtis, 93).  Troy said, “I read the material enough times to feel intimate with it.”  He discovered, in the process of editing the book, that each task requires precision – editing copy, helping with content, wording, conceptualization, maintaining consistency, then later going over grammar and organizing the beautiful photos throughout the book.

Performing Clinical Work
Recently Troy started a family support group that meets every other Thursday evening at AgeSong’s Bayside Park elder community in Emeryville. He described the group as “open” to family caretakers of residents. “By open,” he explained, “Some group members participate at every session and others join the group occasionally.”  Generally, what happens in the groups is that members check in about their week, then Troy describes the purpose of the group to give members space to talk about whatever is relevant to them and what is going on for them as family caretakers. What members especially like about  the community is the spiritual and psychological growth orientation.  According to Troy, most members of the support group are adult sons or daughters in their fifties and working.  As he explained, “I do not have all the solutions.  They help each other.”

Family support group members’ biggest praise is for the students because they provide both psychological and spiritual well-being. He said, “The students communicate with the families.  They are advocates for the residents. Some families don’t have a lot of contact with the interns, though others do. Family caretakers seem to want to learn how they might interact with their loved ones more effectively.”

Troy also interacts with the Pacific Institute interns, who apply their learnings to work with individual residents, groups of residents, and families of residents.  According to Troy, “They seem to be happy doing this work with elders. At the beginning, there was an adjustment to figuring out the expectations. It took time to figure out their place, but by now they seem to have hit their stride and know what they are doing.”  He continued, “They engage with each of the residents in a way that is unique to them.  Many of the interns are in the expressive arts. Through expressive arts, they are able to work with residents who cannot engage verbally through song, dance, or other artistic or creative art forms.”

Interns have once-a-week training in San Francisco.  Troy often participates in trainings. Once a month the training is dedicated to a skill set in the creative arts.  Students also learn process work and receive training in techniques to use with people who cannot engage verbally.  They intern different amounts of time, depending upon what their university requires. They receive a couple hours of group supervision and one or two individual supervision sessions a week, which, according to Troy,  is more supervision than student interns usually receive from other programs.

Moving Forward
After he earns his  doctorate, Troy plans to split his time between private practice and a job in the community mental health setting. He would also enjoy teaching down the road.  For the next several months, he wants to work more with the residents and started volunteering on Fridays at Bayside Park.  He attends intern trainings and is working with Nader on a book related to a theoretical foundation of eldercare.

In conclusion, Troy said, “It has been so inspirational to hear the way Nader talks about aging and the reactions he gets from audience – people get so alive, because it’s still such a minority, yet affirming view – ….Everyone has connections to the aging process. For me, being a part of this has changed the way I view my own future aging and the way I value my relationship with my elder relatives.”  Over the holiday break, Troy had a couple really wonderful conversations with his great grandmother, who is 97.  He asked her some basic questions, such as “Tell me about some of your memories of growing up.” Troy noted, “Some of the things she had to say were sad, but she really lit up when she talked about her memories. Everyone likes to be asked, it’s nice to feel important.”  He certainly is an example of being “in process” with his personal and professional development.  AgeSong Bayside Park appears to be a big part of that process.

Dr. Sally Gelardin, AgeSong Reporter

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Forgetless: The Problem with Remembering Too Much

Cover Image: January 2012 Scientific American Magazine

Maybe too much remembering can be as challenging, or worse, than forgetting.  In the excerpt below, Ingrid Wickelgren, author of  ”Trying to Forget,” offers a new slant on remembering and forgetting:

In today’s excerpt – total recall, the ability of someone to remember every word they read or hear, has often been lauded as tantamount to a high level of intelligence. The opposite is more often the case. Those with total recall often have difficulty making decisions, and more readily miss understanding the overall point of a book or lecture – because they get enmeshed in an undistinguishable mass of irrelevant details. Forgetting, it turns out, has enormous value for concise understanding and for emotional health:Solomon Shereshevsky could recite entire speeches, word for word, after hearing them once. In minutes, he memorized complex math formulas, passages in foreign languages and tables consisting of 50 numbers or nonsense syllables. The traces of these sequences were so durably etched in his brain that he could reproduce them years later, according to Russian psychologist Alexander R. Luria, who wrote about the man he called, simply, ‘S’ in The Mind of a Mnemonist.”But the weight of all the memories, piled up and overlapping in his brain, created crippling confusion. S could not fathom the meaning of a story, because the words got in the way. ’No,’ [S] would say. ‘This is too much. Each word calls up images; they collide with one another, and the result is chaos. I can’t make anything out of this.’ When S was asked to make decisions, as chair of a union group, he could not parse the situation as a whole, tripped up as he was on irrelevant details. He made a living performing feats of recollection.“Yet he desperately wanted to forget. In one futile attempt, he wrote down items he wanted purged from his mind and burned the paper. Although S’s efforts to rein in his memory were unusually vigilant, we all need – and often struggle – to forget. “Human memory is pretty good,” says cognitive neuro-scientist Benjamin J. Levy of Stanford Univer- sity. “The problem with our memories is not that nothing comes to mind-but that irrelevant stuff comes to mind.”

“The act of forgetting crafts and hones data in the brain as if carving a statue from a block of marble. It enables us to make sense of the world by clearing a path to the thoughts that are truly valuable. It also aids emotional recovery. ‘You want to forget embarrassing things,’ says cognitive neuroscientist Zara Bergstrom of the University of Cambridge. ‘Or if you argue with your partner, you want to move on.’ In recent years researchers have amassed evidence for our ability to willfully forget. They have sketched out a neural circuit underlying this skill analogous to the one that inhibits impulsive actions.

“The emerging data provide the first scientific support for Sigmund Freud’s controversial theory of repression, by which unwanted memories are shoved into the subconscious. The new evidence suggests that the ability to repress is quite useful. Those who cannot do this well tend to let thoughts stick in their mind. They ruminate, which can pave a path to depression. Weak restraints on memory may similarly impede the emotional recovery of trauma victims. Lacking brakes on mental intrusions, individuals with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) are also more likely to be among the forgetless (to coin a term). In short, memory – and forgetting – can shape your personality.”

Author: Ingrid Wickelgren

Title: “Trying to Forget”

Publisher: Scientific American Mind

Date: January/February 2012

Pages: 33-38

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=trying-to-forget

 

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A New Perspective on Forgetfulness and Aging

 

I first met Nader Shabahangi at a book presentation in Marin County on Conversations with Ed, Waiting for Forgetfulness:  Why are We So Afraid of Alzheimer’s Disease?,  a book he had just published with Patrick Fox and Ed Voris.  Ed, who spoke eloquently at the presentation, and whose contributions to the book were profound,  is afflicted with Alzheimers.  I was moved to find that Ed Voris was not shut away with his affliction, but out in the world co-authoring a book and participating in book presentations.

From a subsequent interview with the three authors, I discovered they had a different view of memory loss than the view held by most Americans.  They view dementia as a part of a person, but not the whole person, that sometimes having memory loss can be beneficial, and that people with forgetfulness (a term preferred by AgeSong), and older people in general, have much to offer the world. Ed Voris earned a Bachelor degree in  Business Administration and a Bachelor of Divinity. He worked in the construction industry.. Nader Shabahangi is a licensed psychotherapist and CEO of AgeSong Assisted Living and Elder Communities throughout the San Francisco Bay Area. Patrick Fox is a professor of Medical Sociology and Health Policy, Department of Social and Behavioral Sciences, and Co-Director, Institute for Health & Aging, at the University of California, San Francisco.

Shortly before the book event, in early 2010, I had just completed a facilitator certification in End-of-Life Planning.  My cousin, who was just a few years older than me, in his sixties, had just died, and I had taken the training to better cope with this personal loss. My then 15 years of experience as a career and life transitions counselor began shifting to an interest in later life transitions.  In winter-spring of 2010, directly after the End-of-Life Planning training, I took another training in counseling individuals in job loss recovery. Job loss, like other losses, is a challenge of workers in general, but especially difficulty for aging boomers on up. In the  fall of 2010, I took a training as an Activity Coordinator for assisted living communities, and in the spring of 2011, I took another training, conducting exercises for adults with disabilities and frail elderly. During the process of taking all these trainings, I had an opportunity to facilitate activities in several Bay area elder communities. AgeSong,  a cluster of six elder communities run by Nader Shabahangi, stood out from all the other elder communities because of its unique, non-medical driven model of eldercare.

In early 2011, Nader, with the support of the AgeSong communities,  put together an advisory committee to plan a conference on the Poetics of Aging. He invited me to serve on the committee.  The mission of the conference was to change the mainstream view of aging as sickness and decline to one of expansion and growth. By July, I was asked to chair the conference.  Four months later, with the assistance of an outstanding group of speakers, volunteers, and 50 collaborating organizations, including Stanford, UCSF, UC Berkeley, and other universities and organizations devoted to aging issues throughout the Bay area, nationwide, and even worldwide, we produced a hugely successful conference. Famous poets, dancers, theater performers, and other artists came out of the woodwork to celebrate creative aging with healthcare professionals, students, and community members.  It was a significant intergenerational coming together – our youngest contributor to the conference was 16 and our oldest was 97.

I continue to be drawn to Nader’s unique vision of aging as something to look forward to, not dread, and to the AgeSong staff’s commitment to applying this concept within the eldercare communities, with the families of residents, throughout the Bay area, and even throughout the world. With several decades of experience as an author, editor, information officer, counselor, event planner, educator, and as an activist in empowering under-represented populations, such as elders, I am motivated to support Nader’s vision and to promote the wonderful activities and people (residents, staff, contractors, volunteers, students)  in the AgeSong communities.

Dr. Sally Gelardin, AgeSong Today Journalist